My husband just lost his job and can't seem to find another one because he has...

[Mariam O]

...a misdemeanor on his record.? I work a partime job, and go to school, have a child under 5yr and two step children 13 and 8yrs. I don't know what to do as my husband is not talking to me about the situation or what he intend to do. the only thing he keep telling was to call the welfare and tell them he lost he's job and left. I have been having problem and he always say is time to end the marriage. so now that this is going i cant get to him, i cant get to understand what he wants to do as he is taking out his anger on me.Can any one tell me what to do if you have any ideas? I am lost as still new with the way american system work. what can i do to help my self and my child eg. day care, shelter, and feeding? any ideas will be appreciated.
thanks.

[avavu]

You will be much better off without your husband and the step kids.He wants to end it,he doesn't provide,plus brings extra stress to your life.I think he is very clear.When you are a single parent,there is a lot of help from government.File for divorce.Get a full time job.Daycare will be free,full day.Food stamps and health coverage will be free.I am sure you and your child will live much better.

[Sharman B]

First of all, since you are going to school, you need to speak with a school counselor and explain these problems that are going on. They will be in a position to help you with getting financial aid, day care, shelter, etc. The State Welfare system can help you as well. Good luck!

[anchorbabby]

first off try and talk to him about things and figure out what to do. he shouldnt get mad and be able to talk to you right because you guys are in this financial crisis together. if he does get mad that is a problem in itself. secondly dont let money troubles ruin your marriage because money is not everything. thirdly as for welfare. yes you can. go to the medicaid office. get food stamps get medicaid for your child. they can also help you with daycare and food stamps help alot. good luck with everything and i hope your husband finds a new job

[Smiles]

Well try applying for government aide.
If you are in the CA then call 211, they have lots of resources.
Then do not let the misdemeanor hold your faith back. Many people, including most of my family have misdemeanors and felonies and guess what, someone out there still wants them for work.

It takes time. Be patient. Plug into a friendly church as well. They can help in many ways than one knows. Find food banks in your area. Call children home society for day care help. 211 is the best place to begin.

Good luck with your family and all. This is terrible to lose your job during the holidays. Stay strong and do not be alone with yourself. Find some supportive pals. Have some people help you take turns with family meals. You would be surprised at how people around you that are willing to help when in need.

[abc]

support him, hold him, rub his back; hang on to him; his ego has been smashed, don't nag him don't be hateful; pick up the slack and worth through this TOGETHER