is it wrong for me to remain a stay at home mom and take my time trying to

[noodle's mom]

get the job i really want.? i've decided since i have been out of work since a little before my son was born that when i go back to work i want to more of a career than a job that is not going any where. Is it wrong for me to take my time since im a single mom and could use the money. I want a position with benefits for me and my son

[Leila joon]

My sister is a single Mom of two (her ex left her one day for someone else, and refuses to even pay child support). She had little to no job skills, and no career. So she filled out every grant form available and got into college. They offered child care so she was able to go to school full time. She worked very hard, and eventually picked up a part-time job at the school so she would be able to start being financially secure. Working at the college offered two benefits: she could attend classes without worrying about travel time, and she could keep her children in their child care.

Eventually she began being offered scholarships (she worked HARD to maintain perfect grades), and was able to truly focus on her education. She ended up being accepted into several top-of-the-line Universities with ~*full*~ scholarships, and was able to choose the one she wanted. The only money she had to put into this was the cost of relocating, which we were happy to help her with. Today she is still a single Mom, and is on her way to work in a government position as a microbiologist specializing in epidemiology.

My sister came all that way with nothing to start with, except a passion for the job of her dreams and a desire for a better life for my niece and nephew. Her ex not only emptied their joint account before he left, he also sold their computer and other valuables, and stole her car and sold it. She literally had ~*nothing*~ to start over with except an apartment she was going to be evicted from. Yet she rode the bus 40 minutes to and from college every day for several years, until she began Uni.

If she can do it, so can you. But do not expect that the ideal job will just sneak up on you... you will need to work to get there. There are many jobs that will offer full benefits at starting positions with little to no experience, so you may want to look around for one until you can start training for your ideal career. I know my neighbor (who is a single Mom also) worked for WaMu in a starting position and had full medical, dental and optical coverage. They also paid part of her child care.

I wish you the best, for both you and your child. Hang in there. ^_^

[fusspuff80]

No it's not wrong! To look after your family you really have to start with yourself.

When my kids are both in school I'm going to volunteer at the local shelter. We're just lucky we don't need any extra income and I really love Animals and I want to help.

[jgdpzkmpfw]

The worst ( not meaning bad) thing you could do is to be a
single stay at home parent. Your childs not only needs your love but your example. and as we all know, absense make the heart grow fonder.

[The Mrs.]

I don't think it is wrong at all. In fact I think single moms SHOULD have jobs/career. Often time careers require more education but may also pay better. They also tend to be more rewarding because they are typically something you have a passion for. As a teacher I never consider teaching "work". I love what I do. I never say I am going to "work" rather I am going to "school". I find this a bit coincidental because not only do I teach my students things, they often teach me things as well. Kids are the ones who truly know how to live.

[mama]

If you're a single mom, who's paying the bills while you wait for something to fall in your lap?

If you're counting on welfare, the I really wish you'd go to college. Not just wait.

I'd rather my tax dollars support a single mom working towards an education than a single mom waiting for something that will likely not happen considering the job crisis we're in right now anyway.

[kalitajothy]

if you are able to provide the necessities for you and your son's daily living without working...then i believe that waiting to find a job you really want/enjoy and will provide you with all you desire is a GREAT answer.
too many rush into taking 'any' job.....then are miserable...makes for a miserable person in all they do. who wants that??? i am sure you would like to come home and feel good about yourself.
wait and find the right one!!!

[Mike]

I only work when I need money, its best to find a job you really like, you will be happier and your baby will be too!!

[rie]

If you can financially afford to stay at home,then do so...But,if you need an income,get any job, for now,then when your child is in school you can go back to school yourself,or get a better job if your skilled in that area.